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The Brief: Maternity Leaves Are Like Vacations, Right?

Mindy Kaling Just Wants to Work

Mindy Kaling, creator of The Mindy Project, excellent user of accessories, and hero to many, recently opened up to NPR about how she sometimes gets tired of being labeled an “exceptional pioneer.” Kaling, an Indian woman who isn’t your typical stick-thin actress on television, is expected to constantly comment on what it’s like to be an outsider. But she just wants to do her job. Kaling said, “I know why people are interested and I know why people want me to speak about it. But I sort of refuse to be an outsider, even though I know that I very much look like one to a lot of people, and I refuse to view myself in such terms.” Read what else Kaling has to say about being a pioneer.

You Have a Baby….in a Courtroom

Maternity leave. It’s like a mini-vacation, right? Well, that’s what one judge in Georgia seemed to think. According to Above the Law, Attorney Stacy M. Ehrisman-Mickle petitioned an Atlanta court to move an immigration hearing since she would be out on maternity leave, you know, taking care of her child after giving her the gift of life. No big thang. Opposing council was cool with it, but apparently Judge J. Dan Pelletier, Sr. looked at this as the equivalent of her asking for a delay so she could go on a golfing trip. He said there was “no good cause” even though her husband would be out of town, and she’s new to the area with no family or friends around. So she brought her infant daughter to court, which infuriated the judge. Eventually she lodged a formal complaint against Pelletier and made an excellent argument. She wrote:

Apparently my clients do not deserve to be represented by counsel of their choice if that counsel happens to be a pregnant woman. Likewise, pregnant women should not be litigating attorneys due to their “condition.” This thinking is absolutely reprehensible and should not be accepted by anyone within or representing the Department of Justice. I am horrified that this occurred and that I had to bring my infant to court with me. Despite the IJ’s belief, child birth is no minor inconvenience and rightfully calls for a six week absence from work–if not longer, as most other developed countries recognize.

Go girl. Here are some other reasons it’s tough to be a female lawyer.

Coffee Addicts Unite

Good news: You have something else to blame on your parents, and this one’s a biggie. A study released last Tuesday by caffeine scholars (how do we get that job?!) looked at the link between genetics and coffee consumption. By analyzing the DNA and data from 120,000 adults of European and African-American heritage, they were able to identify eight genetic variants that predispose individuals to drink a lot of caffeine. In other words, it’s grandma’s fault you’re on a first name basis with your barista. But on the bright side, a 2012 study found that coffee drinkers may have a lower death risk. Plus, nothing goes better with your cup of coffee than this amazing Chanel Bagel Purse known as “Bagel No.5.” Carbohydrates are just so chic right now.

Levo Presents The Resume Concierge

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Levo Loves…

PIPs! Shouldn’t you be rewarded every time you make a responsible choice that benefits the earth in some way? Well, that’s exactly what PIPs does. This awesome app awards players with “positive impact points” when they make responsible choices like recycling, carpooling, or bike-sharing. Earn enough PIPs and you can use them to make purchases, donate to charities, or invest in projects.

The Dos and Don'ts of Interacting with Celebrities Professionally

The Dos and Don’ts of Interacting with Celebrities Professionally

When I rounded the corner, I almost ran into him. Startled, I looked up… straight into the face of Jim, from The Office.

His name is John Krasinski, but in my frozen mind I couldn’t recall anything but Jim-from-The-Office, and that’s what stuck in my head as I backpedaled and continued down the street that morning. “I just saw Jim from The Office,” I texted everyone I knew. “He was wearing a striped sweater, dark-wash jeans, and a baseball hat. He looked good.

My mother replied that, in New York, these things are bound to happen. After all, she said, celebrities are people, too.

That thought stumped me. Celebrities? Have the same thoughts and carry out the same actions as plebeians such as myself? No way! It took running into Willow Shields in a Starbucks (she ordered a Berry Refresher and, when the barista called “Willow,” I was tempted to grab it and say “I volunteer as tribute!”) and LL Cool J on a sidewalk in Soho to hammer the message home.

Celebrities. They buy Starbucks drinks and walk around Soho. They’re people, too. And, like any person, they want to be treated like one.

These days, it seems like every celeb is dabbling in something outside the realm of acting or singing or reality TV. James Franco wrote a novel. Kanye is teaching a fashion design class. Emma Watson works for UN Women and became an outspoken advocate for feminism. These people live professional lives and, in some cases, desire to impact the world in more ways than through entertainment media.

When meeting celebrities in a professional setting, it’s important to keep this fact in mind. To help you keep your head, we’ve compiled a list of things you should and shouldn’t do when interacting with celebrities in the professional sphere.

Don’t:

1. Stare.

No one likes the creepy hairs-rising-on-the-back-of-their-neck feeling that occurs when someone stares at them. People can feel your eyes on them; celebrities are often even more attuned to long-lasting stares. It might seem obvious, but be polite and keep your eyes to yourself. Don’t let your gaze linger any longer than necessary. Remember: human being, not museum object.

2. Get off topic.

When working on a project or campaign with a celebrity, focus on the task at hand. Don’t (please, please don’t) ask them about their most recent film, what they’re working on now, the sordid tabloid rumors, or anything that doesn’t pertain to what you’re working on in the moment. Think of it this way: Getting off-topic in a meeting with your coworkers is unprofessional and wastes time. This situation is no different.

3. Ask for an autograph.

Unless they’re blatantly offering, a work setting is an inappropriate time to ask a celebrity for an autograph. If you really must have them inscribe their name on a scrap of paper for you to frame and cherish forever, try popping the question at the end of a casual conversation. If they decline, don’t be offended.

Do:

1. Remain calm.

When you see someone famous, your first instinct might be to squeal, gasp, or screech to a standstill. If you value your professional relationship, don’t do any of these things. Celebs are used to people freaking out when they walk into a room. Instead, act like there’s nothing unusual about the situation. This may take some restraint, but will put everyone at ease and will start things off on the right professional note.

2. Take them seriously.

Yes, celebrities are people, but in many cases they’re also intelligent, creative, insightful, and highly resourceful people. They’re sure to have valid ideas to contribute to any meeting, so pay attention not just to their face, but also to what comes out of it. When all is said and done, give that person due credit for their contributions.

3. Be discreet.

Even if it hasn’t been specifically requested, it’s always a good idea to be discreet when working alongside someone famous. That means keep your smartphone in your bag where it belongs—snapping photos and posting tweets should be the furthest thing from your mind. This concept also extends to after a meeting or event. You don’t need to rush out, call everyone you know, and fill them in on your brush with fame. Keep it on the DL and you’ll seem cool, levelheaded, and trustworthy.

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6 Steps to Reach Job Search Zen

6 Steps to Reach Job Search Zen

Anyone who says they’re 100 percent satisfied with their job, in many cases, is either being dishonest or their boss is standing nearby. On the other hand, you can probably believe anyone who says they’re zero percent satisfied and looking for another employer.

The majority of folks are somewhere in the middle and are just looking for a way to make the best of their current situation (while also keeping their ears open). Maybe they like their boss and fellow employees, but don’t really like the job itself. Maybe they love their job, but can’t stand the sight of their manager, or their company’s CEO behaves in ways that severely oppose their values.

Are there ways to make the leap to a new company, with more clarity on landing a culture-rich, more satisfying environment? If you choose to stay at your current job, can a compromise be reached that won’t have you so conflicted?

The simple answer is ‘yes,’ and here are a few tips on doing just that if you find yourself in this situation.

If job searching:

1. Research potential employers. 

If you’re in job search mode, research, research, and research some more. Ask friends and friends of friends about the company in which you’re targeting your next position. Are the people friendly? Is the culture laid back? Does a positive culture emanate from the top (CEO) through to the front lines? Do other employees help one another achieve goals, or do silos, self-centeredness, and narcissism wreak havoc on happiness, productivity, and results? Is the leadership grounded in good principles? You can jump start this research by reviewing companies on Glassdoor‘s Top Companies for Cultures and Values.

2. Ask good interview questions. 

Additionally, be sure you’re asking questions at the interview that’ll keep you from feeling compromised later on should you accept the job. If you don’t like what you’re hearing, decline the position. That’s being fair to yourself and your potential employer and will go a long way to ensuring job search zen. The odds that you’ll be able to fix things after the fact are slim to none and will have you looking for a new opportunity before you’ve cashed your first check.

If remaining at your current position:

3. Smile and carry on. 

If the boss is an overbearing ogre, avoid them when possible. On the occasion you must be in their presence, leaning on your own understanding of who this person is will help you to suffer their company. Remember, in many cases it truly is them, not you. Smile and carry on as only someone with your strength of character can.

4. Own your power. 

Difficult coworkers are a fact of life. There will be those who have no social graces or tact of any kind that’ll crawl up through the cracks of a corporate structure. Don’t empower them with the ability to ruin your day. At the first bristle of the hairs at the back of your neck, take a stand. Don’t be confrontational. Don’t repay crass with crass. Rather, as quietly and as matter-of-factly as possible, state your position. You’ll be heard.

5. Keep blinders on. 

Not every project you’re assigned will be fun. Tackle those onerous tasks with blinders on. Don’t overthink all of the reasons you dislike them. This will only add to their misery. Become that 8-year-old that cleaned their plate because doing so meant a nice treat at the end of the meal. Your ‘treat,’ of course, will simply be the knowledge that you completed it and are now prepared to move on to bigger and better things.

6. Take a deep breath. 

The day has been long already and there’s no end in sight. Everyone has been there and survived. You will, too. Take a deep breath and try to relax. Be in the moment, even if it’s not your favorite moment. Long days at work are rarely fun, but they can be fruitful with the right attitude. Stepping back and looking at the bigger picture will help to put things in perspective and help you to keep your cool when your patience has been stretched to the breaking point.

Remember that you and you alone are in charge of how things affect you. Nothing and no one can steal that power from you. But, you can give these people and circumstances the power if you choose to. That’s your choice and your battle to win or lose.

This post originally appeared on Personalbrandingblog.com.

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How to Be More Entrepreneurial at Work

How to Be More Entrepreneurial at Work

When it comes to making a difference, it seems that there’s never enough time or resources to try new ideas or programs. Instead, we focus on the day-to-day and try to make the most of what we have to ensure that the communities we serve get what they need to thrive. But are we selling ourselves short by thinking that new ideas require a huge influx of cash?

Instead of hoping for more resources and time, try thinking like an entrepreneur.

In an article on Forbes, author Dan Schawbel talks about how the definition of an entrepreneur is changing: “A major shift is taking place, replacing the typical definition of an entrepreneur—someone who starts a company—with a newer definition, one based on the innate mindset of a person who sees opportunities and pursues them.”

Looking at entrepreneurs in this way means that there’s room for an entrepreneurial spirit while at work. In fact, many are increasingly exploring what it means to be an “intrapreneur” or someone who innovates within an organization.

By thinking like an entrepreneur—with an eye toward new ideas and a passion for making them come to life—and acting like one in appropriate situations, you can set yourself apart as a leader within your organization. Here’s how to do so.

1. Analyze your work situation.

Before you set out to launch a new program or take steps on your new idea, understand the level of entrepreneurship your organization encourages. Look around and see how others at your organization act and what results and projects are praised. Over the past couple of years, more and more businesses are embracing an entrepreneurial spirit among their employees, so make sure yours is one of them.

If your organization doesn’t seem that keen on taking risks like an entrepreneur, talk to your manager about ways you can step up. Is there a project you can oversee or an idea you can focus on for a couple months? By finding small ways to get more involved, you can grow your entrepreneurial attitude and help foster a spirit of openness at your organization.

2. Find a project (or passion) to focus on.

One of the reasons why entrepreneurs often start companies is that they have something they feel passionate about and want to see come to life. At work, a potential project or passion might reveal itself in many ways: a recurring problem or challenge, a small program that’s showing promise, or an interest/idea of yours that you think could help your organization and you’d love to try.

Once you identify the project or passion you’d like to explore, stick to it and explore how it could grow, keeping in mind all of the various constraints (budget, time, etc.) within your organization.

3. Get comfortable with risks.

Entrepreneurs are known for taking big risks and getting big rewards. While this might sound intimidating, taking a risk every now and then might not be the worst thing in the world—especially if it brings back big rewards for your organization.

Another article on Forbes addresses this subject and provides four ways you can embrace risk:

  • Broaden your observations beyond what you seek and beyond the obvious details before you, and enlarge your field of opportunities.
  • Meet good vision with consistent execution every day to build a stable, growing pipeline of opportunities.
  • Cultivate the most promising opportunities by giving them the right amount of focus and attention. Don’t let the best opportunities vanish by wasting energy on opportunities with limited potential.
  • Make generosity a part of your purpose, and an integral part of how you manage opportunities.

4. Don’t be afraid to speak up.

Sometimes it’s not about managing or launching something, but asking questions and sparking conversations that shift your organization’s POV when it comes to exploring new ideas.

Not comfortable speaking up? In Harvard Business Review, Meredith Fineman discusses this, highlighting three ways you can still cultivate an entrepreneurial attitude: having a deep network, working alongside an extroverted partner, and pacing yourself in situations when you’re out and about.

This post originally appeared on Idealistcareers.org.

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How to Stay Chic in the Rain

How to Stay Chic in the Rain

If you’ve ever been caught in a freak downpour, the term “drowned rat” takes on a very real meaning. Not unlike the Wicked Witch of the West, your hair and make-up has melted and your clothes are left a soggy mess (RIP suede tote). Since predicting the weather is akin to predicting Taylor Swift’s newest crush (sorry Taylor), we’ve compiled a handy rainy day dressing cheat sheet.

In the Trenches

Take a cue from art director and street style star Sofia Sanchez Barrenechea and invest in a timeless trench coat. Always in style and always protective in the rain, the trench is a favorite of style icons ranging from Jackie O to Audrey Hepburn. Though Burberry has cornered the market on luxury trenches, there’s an unlimited selection of affordable styles to choose from.

Patent Pending

When did festival-ready Hunter boots become the symbol of rain in the city? Don’t get us wrong, we love our Wellingtons for weekends upstate, but for work? Not chic. May we recommend a cool patent leather style instead? The slick look was spotted all over this season’s runways, from Saint Laurent to Miu Miu.

Take Cover

For those unexpected torrential downpours, you need a good, sturdy umbrella. Kate Spade Saturday’s zigzag style matches any outfit and folds up to fit in your purse. For something a little more special, Scalamandre’s signature zebra-print umbrella will get you noticed.

Hat Trick

Only a certain type of woman can pull off a hat, but rain is the perfect excuse to see if you’re that type of woman. We like a simple fedora style in a neutral color, like Rag & Bone’s fall 2014 option. Disclaimer: Hats are for outdoor use only. Don’t be the office hat girl.

This post originally appeared on Thepolitesse.com.

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How to Take Risks

How to Take Risks

I’m a sponge who loves to soak up information. One of my top strengths from StrengthsFinder is “learner.” I’ll deep dive into a random esoteric topic for weeks and weeks, learning everything I can about it (like tea, for example). I even got my master’s in learning and design because I’m just that nerdy.

But I’ll tell you what learning has really done for me: Learning has given me the perfect excuse to take risks and pivot my career trajectory.

Eliminate and Integrate.

After college, I wondered: “How does research affect policy? I want to learn about that.” I worked at a non-profit in D.C. learning how research affects policy. But what I really learned was that I hated the cubicle life.

So I crossed that off my list.

The next year, I wondered: “How might we be able to look inside the brain during meditation? I want to learn about that.” I worked in a lab at the Stanford Medical School. But what I really learned was that I hated crunching data and research was too slow for an “activator” type like me. I also wasn’t sure I was helping anyone…

So I crossed that off my list.

The following year, I wondered: “How might we support women out of the sex trade? I want to learn about that.” I worked for Anchal Project and headed to India by myself. I felt like I was getting closer to my calling. But I learned that I probably needed to head my own initiative or social business.

I also used to think I needed to make a big impact, until I met Dada.

So I crossed “save the world by sacrificing myself” off my list.

Huge relief.

The year after that, I wondered: “How might we support people in feeling happier and healthier? I want to learn about that.” I enrolled in a master’s program. Then I learned a whole bunch of things:

  • I learned that I loved creating beautiful intimate spaces where people could be themselves, fully intimate, and present.
  • I learned that I was far more creative than I’d ever believed was possible.
  • I learned that I wanted to work on supporting people to design their lives.

Then I designed my path by weaving all the pieces together: women’s empowerment, design, art, spirituality, entrepreneurship, creating safe spaces, meditation…

And I shaved off the rest: stifling office space, corporate structures, lack of contact with people, lack of control over schedule, and other people’s ideas of power and success.

Deep sigh.

Be curious and experimental.

What I wish someone had told me when I was having those breakdowns and anxiety attacks about “my purpose in life” at every moment of uncertainty, transition, and pivot:

It’s all about course-correction. You’re going through a self-sculpting process.

To a degree I was naturally doing a form of design thinking, even though I didn’t know it at the time. As you may have noticed, every career move I made started with a question I wanted to investigate (yup, nerd!). Then I went and investigated it. Curiosity was the underlying energy. Learning was the process. Clarity was the outcome.

What’s nice about design thinking though is that it focuses on creating small prototypes of the experiences without going through the whole experience. So instead of working two years at the medical school, I would’ve been able to figure out I didn’t want to crunch data all day in a few weeks (or maybe even a half-day)!

But I hadn’t given myself the permission to be that lean, exploratory, and experimental because “I had to make money” and I felt ashamed for not having “figured it all out yet.”

Why does it matter?

I’m amazed at how much I now use design thinking in my coaching work. I want women to self-sculpt with more ease–to save themselves time, energy, and thousands of dollars. And not in the name of speed and efficiency, but in the name of feeling alive as soon as possible.

Because the now is all there is. Because women need themselves to feel alive. Because the world needs women to feel alive. Women who are vibrant, conscious, and giving.

If you’re in the self-sculpting process, please remember:

You don’t find the path, you create it. And part of the creative process is risk-taking, making mistakes, learning, and course-correcting.

You’re in the process of feeling more alive–so congrats!

Take action.

Write a comment below this post or reply to me: Share a direction that feels risky for you. What is a question about this direction you could begin to investigate?

This post originally appeared on Mariamolfino.com.

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Networking Hacks Every Girl Should Know

Networking Hacks Every Girl Should Know

I don’t know about you, but I do most of my “networking” at places that don’t require a name tag. And, I prefer it that way. I’ve found that meeting people through more natural interactions–via friends, at the gym, the dog park, or a party–makes for a more genuine connection that’s more likely to evolve into a working relationship down the road. Though slower, the impact can be bigger because the initial bond is made through a shared interest (yes, kickball or trivia nights count) rather than a shared desperation for a job.

If this sounds like your networking style too, read on. I’ve curated my favorite networking hacks from bloggers on the hustle to PR pros that know how to work any room (the cool way, of course), just in time for you to network with influential people at Fall festivities and upcoming holiday shindigs.

How do you do? Not, what do you do.

Julia Joy of Z Group PR, Inc. says her go-to hack in non-traditional networking settings is to respond to the question “what do you do?” with your passion, not your job title.

“When you talk about work, talk about your passion or your why. The gym, for example, is no place to go into a sales pitch about your product or service, obviously,” Joy says. “But, talking about how your career empowers you to take care of yourself or offers the flexibility to workout mid-day will spark a more personal conversation, which could lead into a career conversation and connection.”

On that same note, UrbanBound Co-Founder Jeff Elman, says that when networking for his small business, he avoids ever asking that question opting for either “What brings you to this event?” or “ Where are you from?” instead of  “What do you do?”.

Elman says questions like these “get people talking, and it usually results in a more productive conversation. After all, the more people you get to know on a deeper level, the easier it is to grow your brand.”

Party down, follow up!

Dale Janée, the founder of the international style and 
beauty blog, SavvySpice.com–who also did styling for the BRAVO! Silicon Valley series–knows how important it is to follow up with people she meets, even when out for a night on the town.

Since she lives in Switzerland and does most business in San Francisco, CA, she’s got to make her time count when visiting. She says: email them, add them on LinkedIn, and be sure to give them your card:

“You know LinkedIn is important for recruiters, your professional reputation, making connections, and networking, but you could be doing even more. Spend a few hours updating it, attaching samples of your work, and create a summary. Stay active, especially if you’re looking for a new job. Read the popular articles on LinkedIn too. Add people mentioned or the author, follow up with related influencers, and be rest assured that when networking contacts view your profile, they’ll learn as much as possible about you professionally.”

Also, don’t freak out if you don’t have a business card just yet. Janée says, “You don’t need a title, you just need your calling card, and 
if you have a blog relevant to your career, make sure to add that URL!”

She did this when she first started meeting tech and startup founders in the Bay Area, while also growing a tough skin. When talking about her site and services, people often responded with impressive and intimidating one-ups, like: “Well, my business partner went to Stanford,” “My sister does PR for me in NYC” or “Our Kickstarter just launched and we already raised $200K in 3 days.”

Jané says, “It can quickly make you feel like a lonely country bumpkin with nothing to offer. But, just work harder and as you start going to local events, business groups, and dedicating time on your own projects, your network will grow. Help others whenever you can. Suddenly, the city you’re living in can become much smaller as your network grows and the good energy you put out there may come back to you as good Karma.”

Be patient, not pushy.

Would you invest time with someone and help that person if you knew he or she only wanted to talk to you for your connections? Chyeahh, I didn’t think so….

David Bakke of Money Crashers says to approach shop talk slowly, waiting patiently for the gradual, optimal time.

“Understand that in most
 situations, this opportunity may not come around until your third or fourth 
encounter,” Bakke says.

“Take things slowly, and don’t be too pushy. If someone isn’t 
interested in establishing a connection, simply move on. When networking
 at a bar, for example, be sure to keep beverage moderation in mind or else you risk them remembering you for the wrong reasons. And don’t forget to pay your share of 
the bar tab.”

And, to my gals out there who are like me and enjoy sports for the deliciously greasy food and cheering associated with it, Bakke warns us with one final point: “Sporting events are another great place to network–just make
sure you’re not interrupting the action in your efforts.”

Fair enough, Bakke. Fair enough. One more for the road because I know you’re itching to head out and mingle.

Susan Bender Phelps, who teaches a course called Connections: The Secrets of Powerful Networking and runs a corporate training company, recommends: being interested

She says that the “most interesting people are those who are interested in others. Ask questions about the people you meet. Be curious and listen. Don’t wait for your turn to talk about yourself. If you ask enough questions, you will learn if there’s a reason to connect for business.”

And, if they’re interested in you because of your interest in them, Phelps says they will most likely ask you questions about yourself. If there’s a match, she offers this reaction, “be humble and say, ‘Oh, you know, I think we have a lot in common. And I’d love to grab a cup of coffee with you later this week or next week. Would that work for you?’ If they say yes, you’ll have 30 minutes of their undivided attention. You’ll have a friendly contact that will open possibilities. That’s how you network when the event isn’t intended for formal networking.”

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My Power Outfit: Product Manager at Island Records

My Power Outfit: Product Manager at Island Records

Name: 

Caiti Green

Job/Company:

Product Manager at Island Records

What are you wearing?

BDG high-waisted skinny jeans, Jeffrey Campbell Rum Moto boots, Wilfred tee from Aritzia, Mackage jacket from Aritzia, Tove Lo buttons, Cleobella bag

My Power Outfit: Product Manager at Island Records

Why does it make you feel powerful?

It’s polished, but still casual and my own style. And versatile! I can wear this outfit to work, to a show, or out with friends and still feel comfortable and appropriate.

How does fashion boost your confidence?

I’m no fashion expert by any means, but knowing you look good (by your own standards!) is always a great step toward fearlessness.

Any advice for dressing for a job in the music industry?

Workplaces in the music industry are generally pretty lenient when it comes to dress codes, but that doesn’t mean you should let it all hang out. The more put together you look at work, the more respect you’ll get from your superiors. But don’t be afraid to show off your personal style!

Photos: Sam Teich / Levo League

The Brief: Your Thursday Boredom Buster

The Brief: Taking Hair Tips From Babies

Not All it’s Cracked Up to Be

You may remember our report from the other day about Facebook and Apple offering egg freezing benefits to their employees. This sounded amazing, considering egg freezing (which includes surrogacy and in vitro fertilization) isn’t covered by insurance and costs tens of thousands of dollars.

But Emma Rosenblum, who wrote a cover story for BusinessWeek on egg freezing back in April, says, “The idea that this coverage will entice women to casually freeze their eggs and get on with their 60-hour weeks is ludicrous. For our cover story, I spoke to dozens of women in their early to late 30s who had frozen eggs and to a few whose unfrozen eggs had resulted in successful pregnancies. This is a relatively invasive procedure that has a success rate of only 20 percent—and that’s if you’re able to freeze enough viable eggs, which many women can’t do.” She noted that most women would prefer to have their children early on and naturally, but they haven’t found a suitable partner yet–partly because they’re so focused on their careers. So basically she’s saying that this benefit will have no affect on women having careers AND families. Bummer.

Miranda Priestly Syndrome

Even though more women are in powerful positions these days, it seems that most people still want to work for a man. A new Gallup poll asked more than 1,000 randomly sampled male and female respondents, “If you were taking a new job and had your choice of a boss, would you prefer to work for a man or a woman?” 33 percent of respondents said they would prefer having a male boss, while 20 percent would prefer having a female boss. By gender, 25 percent of women said they would prefer a female boss, compared with just 14 percent of men. So why all the lady haters? Well, besides Meryl Streep just being really good in The Devil Wears Prada, here are a few theories on how women behave as they climb up the career ladder.

Baby Hair is So Fine (Literally)

Ombre (or a super expensive way to show off your roots as we call it) is over. Now it’s all about capturing the same hairstyle you had when you were 8 months old. According to Glamour, the trend is to try to re-create those natural baby highlights we all totally took for granted because we were too distracted by that mobile above our crib. The pros are calling them “babylights.” “Babylights are delicate, white-blond highlights created using a very fine color technique to mimic that baby-blond hue,” master colorist and cofounder of the Warren-Tricomi Salon Joel Warren told Glamour. “My clients often bring in photos of their children for inspiration, asking me to make their color look that fresh and natural. The result is subtle, but beautiful.” Get a stray Cheerio or two stuck in there and you’ll really have the look down.

I’ll Be There for You on Netflix

Everyone’s favorite show about a group of 20-somethings finding love and laughs in totally unrealistic New York apartments is coming to Netflix in January. We’re talking about Friends! If this gets anywhere near the amount of coverage Gilmore Girls coming to Netflix got, then the world (and by world, we mean BuzzFeed) may implode. This is the one thing Friends got right about being in your 20′s.

Levo Loves…

FEED Suppers founded by Lauren Bush Lauren. The founder of FEED had a goal to fund one million meals in the month leading up to October 16, World Food Day (today). “We wanted to find a new way to engage people on the issue of hunger,” she told Glamour.

How to Accept the Fact that You Have to Work for the Rest of your Life

How to Accept that You Have to Work for the Rest of Your Life

Even before I got my first full-time job out of college, my family forced me to open up a long-term savings account. For my Christmas present from my brother, he printed out some Fidelity paperwork and gave me a check to start the process. One of the first things I had to do? Pick my future year for retirement…

The thought of working for the rest of your life doesn’t really hit you until you see that year. I can’t even remember, but I know it’s in the 2050s. (According to a recent Gallup poll, the average retirement age is up to 62. Womp womp.) But I didn’t panic, at least not nearly as much as my roommate did before she started her first job. I only have roughly a year’s worth of working experience, but I was trying to think about how I coped, how I could help her calm down, and how I could help us both see the light at the long, long end of the working tunnel. Lots of wine? I wish. (Just kidding). But here’s some practical advice about how to accept that the next 30+ years of your life will be spent working, and to help you realize that it’s all not so bad.

1. You’re not alone.

Literally everyone else you know is in the same boat as you, unless you have a friend who’s just going to mooch off of her parents for the rest of her life. So basically that means that you can all wallow together with as many pints of Ben & Jerry’s as you want. See? It’s already not so bad.

2. Make your weekends count.

The best thing about working is that you don’t have to do anything on the weekends. You have no papers to write, no group meetings to attend, no college agenda dragging you out of bed. If you want to stay in pajamas all day and watch Netflix, you can. If you want to travel somewhere new every weekend and visit all of your friends, you can do that, too. Which brings me to the next piece of advice…

3. Visit your friends.

Most likely, you won’t be living with all your friends after college. I have one in DC, one in Michigan, one in Florida, another in Boston: they’re all over. But the benefit? I get to go to all of these cool places and never have to pay to stay. It’s something you definitely need to take advantage of, and it gives you an excuse to pretend you’re in college again (like you need one).

4. Make a budget, seriously.

So the obvious benefit of working is that you get a big fat paycheck. And I’m not gonna lie, it’s pretty sweet. But that paycheck also means that you now have to pay bills, buy groceries, and manage your try-a-new-shampoo-every-week habit. Keeping a budget seriously helps, especially because then you know when you can splurge a bit to buy that beautiful Kate Spade purse or those awesome black coated-denim pants.

5. It’s ok to vent.

Everyone has complaints about their job (or just life in general) and it’s ok to talk about them. Now if you resort the endless text messages and emails about your lack of hot water or your annoying coworker or your left eyebrow that’s slightly higher than your right, than you have a problem. But if you’re with your girlfriends at happy hour, share your grievances. You’ll feel much better once you do.

6. Enjoy your 20s.

Now I’m only 23, so you can take this with a grain of salt if you so choose, but your 20s really are where you do the most growing. You finally start to mature and start living your life. You’re out of the comfort of home, you’ve moved on from the false reality world that is college, and you’re doing things on your own. Even though the years can be difficult and messy, they’re what make the rest of your life so awesome. It’s the time when you can also take some risk, because let’s face it, you still have 20 years to make up for it if the risk goes badly.

At first it’s scary, realizing the greater part of your adult life will be spent in a desk chair. But if you make a conscious effort to live it up for the rest of the time, it won’t be so bad after all. Still don’t believe me? Then maybe Carrie Bradshaw will convince you…

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