What Facebook Is Giving Us Instead of a 'Dislike' Button

What Facebook Is Giving Us Instead of a ‘Dislike’ Button

Facebook users all across the world have been begging for another way to react to news—we’re so over just “liking” something. Well, Mark Zuckerberg and the folks at Facebook have finally heard our pleas.

[Related: #TellUsTuesday: Do You Use Emojis in Work Emails?]

Today, Zuckerberg announced on Facebook that they’re testing a new way to interact with a post.

Read his away message below:

Today we’re launching a test of Reactions—a more expressive Like button.

The Like button has been a part of Facebook for a long time. Billions of Likes are made every day, and Liking things is a simple way to express yourself.

For many years though, people have asked us to add a “dislike” button. Not every moment is a good moment, and sometimes you just want a way to express empathy. These are important moments where you need the power to share more than ever, and a Like might not be the best way to express yourself.

At a recent Townhall Q&A, I shared with our community that we’ve spent a lot of time thinking about the best way to give you better options for expressing yourself, while keeping the experience simple and respectful. Today we’re starting to test this.

Reactions gives you new ways to express love, awe, humor and sadness. It’s not a dislike button, but it does give you the power to easily express sorrow and empathy—in addition to delight and warmth. You’ll be able to express these reactions by long pressing or hovering over the Like button.

We’re starting to test Reactions in Ireland and Spain and will learn from this before we bring the experience to everyone. We hope you like this—or can better express how you’re feeling!

Here’s to hoping that the change gets implemented for good.

Photo: Facebook


The Brief: California Girls Really Are Unforgettable

This Just In!

So we’re a little bummed that this amazing new Facebook feature is only available in Ireland, mainly because it’s FINALLY giving us what we want: something other than a “like” button. It’s no “dislike” button, but at least we can show our friend that they’re video of they’re cat running on a treadmill made us laugh so hard we cried, or that we totally feel for you when you got sprayed by a huge truck with dirty road water. Read more about it here. [Related: This New iPhone Hack Will Change Your Life]

Ummm What?

As Don Draper once famously said on Mad Menwhen Peggy said he never thanked her for all the work she did, “That’s what the money is for!” It seems like a basic concept, but some companies are a little confused about this. Urban Outfitters, everyone’s go-to place for letting your inner hipster comes out, seems to feel that they don’t have to pay their employees for their services. Hmm. Read more about it here. (Related: 8 Easy Ways to Volunteer This Fall)

California Girls

In addition to having some truly awesome songs written about them, it also literally pays well to be a California girl. On Tuesday, Gov. Jerry Brown signed one of the toughest pay equity laws in the nation. According to a U.S Census Bureau report from 2015, women in California who work full time are paid on average 84 cents for every dollar a man makes. But that’s changing big time. This new California Fair Pay Act will give employees more support for challenging perceived income discrimination. It basically says employers can’t pay workers less than those of the opposite sex for similar work, even if their titles are different or they work at different locations. California girls, they’re unforgettable. (Related: How Serious Is Your Work Anxiety?)

Pumpkin Crisis

We don’t want anyone to panic, but it may be the end to Thanksgiving as we know it. In some sort of cartoon-like universe, there’s a shortage of canned pumpkin. Ugh. Now we’ll all have to pretend we enjoy Pecan Pies like some sort of animal. If you’re one of those people who plans ahead, you’re going to want to make a grocery store run now and pick up 40 a few cans of pumpkin. This may be worse than the great rosé wine crisis of 2014 in which people had to drink the thousands of other wine flavors available. And in more pumpkin news, Starbucks has started a secret society for Pumpkin Spice Latte fanatics, and it doesn’t involve doing anything weird or violent like in that movie The Skulls. From what we’ve gathered, it sounds like if you purchase a lot of PSLs you get a free knitted orange koozie. Everyone knows cardboard sleeves are for peasants. (Related: 11 Costumes for a #GirlPower Halloween)

Interesting Things (in a Sentence or Two)

Selena Gomez Reveals She Underwent Chemotherapy When People Thought She Was in Rehab (Buzzfeed)

Gina Rodriguez’s Newest Job Title Isn’t What You’d Expect (Brit & Co)

Harvard Debate Champs Lose to Team of Prisoners (USA Today)

Levo 100 #POTD (Person of the Day)

Nicki McClung is ready to take on the world as an intern in Global Philanthropy at JP Morgan Chase. Learn more about her goals here and then discover more must-see profiles on Front & Center.

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That Katie Holmes wore this ball gown to ride the subway. Hey, whatever makes your commute easier!

Heels and a train…nothing better #newyork #pennstation

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Urban Outfitters Wants YOU... to Work for Free

Urban Outfitters Wants YOU… to Work for Free

If you’re a current Urban Outfitters employee, your bosses at parent company URBN are asking something of you this holiday season. Because those beloved over-sized sweaters and ripped denims jeans are in such high demand, volunteers are needed to fulfill orders.

But what some might call “free labor,” URBN calls a “team-building activity.” We don’t blame them, though, we figure they have to frame the request in the most appealing way possible.

Philly.com posted part of the email the company sent out to employees reading:

“URBN is seeking weekend volunteers to help out at our fulfillment center in Gap, PA. October will be the busiest month yet for the center, and we need additional helping hands to ensure the timely shipment of orders. As a volunteer, you will work side by side with your GFC colleagues to help pick, pack and ship orders for our wholesale and direct customers.”

Don’t fret, though. There’s one perk to volunteering for the company—free lunch.  So hey, if you’re an Urban Outfitters employee and have nothing better to do with your days off, the details are below.

Who: Home Office URBN salaried employees

Where: URBN’s Fulfilment Center – 766 Brackbill Road, Gap, Pennsylvania 17527

What You’ll Be Doing: Pick, pack and prepare packages for shipment (please wear sneakers and comfortable clothing)

When: October 17, 18, 24, 25, and 31 Lunch will be provided

Two shifts each day: 9:00 AM – 3:00PM or 12:00 PM – 6:00 PM

(you can volunteer for one or multiple days)

Transportation: If needed, URBN will provide transportation to and from GFC (details provided after sign up)

Here’s to hoping that Urban Outfitters employees are in the giving mood this year or else there are going to be a lot of unhappy customers.

Photo: Mike Mozart / Flickr

11 Costumes for a #GirlPower Halloween

11 Costumes for a #GirlPower Halloween

If you’re a planner like me, you’ve already started perusing Etsy to see where you can find that one obscure item you need for your Halloween costume. (No one else? Just me?) But in case you haven’t figured out exactly what you want to dress up as this year, here are eleven costumes that will help spread some #GirlPower vibes all night long.

1. Karlie Kloss and Taylor Swift

If you and your BFF are looking for the perfect duo costume, repping the Karlie/Taylor combo is a great way to go. Just grab some blonde wigs (if you’re not already blonde), and then the sky’s the limit. Go old-school TSwift with some cowboy boots and a sparkly dress or channel Karlie’s new student status with an NYU t-shirt. Bonus points if you carry their joint Vogue cover around with you.

[Related: 15 Signs You Have What It Takes to Be in Taylor Swift’s Girl Gang]

2. Literally anyone from the Bad Blood music video

This is a great option if you have a bunch of girl friends, or if you just want an excuse to dress like a badass ninja warrior. Throw on some black and leather (but maybe skip the stilettos) and give yourself a fun nickname. Personally, I think I’d go with Mad Hatter.

[Related: Your Ultimate Halloween Party Playlist]

3. Hillary Clinton

One word: pantsuit. Grab one in your favorite color, give yourself a great blowout, and then read up. You want to be ready for an impromptu debate at any point in the evening.

4. Ruth Bader Ginsburg

If dressing up as the Notorious R.B.G. doesn’t make you feel like you can take on the world, I’m not sure what will. For this costume, wear an all-black dress, create a white lace collar and make sure you wear those glasses. Pull your hair back and you’ll be ready to rule any courtroom. Well, at least any Halloween party room.

5. Carli Lloyd

This U.S. Women’s National Team player clinched the Women’s World Cup this summer, and as a bonus, her costume isn’t that complicated to create. If you can get your hands on a Lloyd jersey, you’re golden. If not, any soccer jersey will do as long as you pair it with some high soccer socks and a thin headband.

6. Misty Copeland

She embodies athleticism and grace, and how fun would it be to dress up as a ballerina? You can either put on a leotard and tutu or go for an all-purple ensemble, like her Under Armour campaign outfit. Either way, put on baby pink flats and tie ribbons around your ankles to give the illusion of pointe shoes.

[Related: 5 Reasons Why Misty Copeland Is the Ultimate Career Inspiration]

7. Serena Williams

Grab your tennis racket, a neon tank, and tennis skirt to embody this powerhouse athlete. Also feel free to gather around a ton of trophies and to flex your muscles as often as possible.

8. Daenerys Targaryen from Game of Thrones

She’s the mother of dragons, she commands respect, she continuously shows bravery, and she becomes the ruler of a tribe she isn’t originally from. One of the easiest ways to look like Daenerys is to wear a long, loose blue dress and a wavy blonde wig. Oh, and if you can get a dragon, that’d be top-notch.

9. Kimmy Schmidt from Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt

She’s not only curious and courageous, but she’s also proven herself to be a super independent power woman. Copy the outfit she wears during the insanely catchy opening song (floral shirt, yellow cardigan, pink pants) to look most like Klassic Kimmy. Just don’t forget her purple Jansport!

10. Beyonce

What’s the best part about dressing up as Bey? All. The. Options. Do you want to go the more ambiguous route and wear a bee costume with a crown? Or do you want to wear a “Kale” sweatshirt a la the 7/11 music video? Whatever you choose, make sure you have a megawatt smile and tons of confidence to go with it.

11. Equal Pay

You can definitely use all your creative powers for this one but dressing up as “equal pay” is a unique take on a normal Halloween costume. Try attaching equal amounts of blue and pink Monopoly money to a shirt, but make sure to take a pen and turn all those pink $5 into $50 in order to match the blue bills. Then get excited for all the awesome conversations your costume will strike up with everyone you see.

Photo: Kevin Mazur / Getty Images

What 9 Female Runners Wish They Knew Before Their First Marathon

What 9 Female Runners Wish They Knew Before Their First Marathon

Training for your first 26.2 is a daunting task—but an awesome goal. “Run a marathon” is on many people’s bucket lists. After your first marathon, you’ll go through a ton of emotions—pride, relief, pain (inevitable), hunger, and, yes, wondering which marathon is up next. To help you prepare, we asked nine seasoned marathoners what they wish they knew before they headed to their very first start line.

[Related: 4 Successful Athletes Share Their Best Relaxation Techniques]

1. Cassandra Pisone: San Francisco, CA

First Marathon: 2015 Pittsburgh Marathon

Number of Marathons: 1 (next one will be 2016 LA Marathon)

What I Wish I Knew: “I wish I knew that it wasn’t just me that was hurting toward the end! I had to keep reminding myself that no one felt good after running 20+ miles—I wouldn’t have felt so alone!”

[Related: 4 Champion Runners Answer the Eternal Question “Why Run?”]

2. Katie O’Grady + Agatha Kluk: New York, NY

Katie’s First Marathon: 2011 NYC Marathon

Number of Marathons: 3

What I Wish I Knew: “I would highly recommend Lynx sports bras for my fellow double Ds out there! Also everyone should pick up “the STICK” for inevitable training and post-race aches and pains (especially for your IT band!!)”

Agatha’s First Marathon: Ocean Drive Marathon in Cape May, NJ in 2008

Number of Marathons: 14

What I Wish I Knew: “Do not underestimate the value of a good anti-chafing product.”

3. Lauren Seserko: Baltimore, Maryland

First Marathon: 2013 Baltimore Marathon

Number of Marathons: 2 (next one will be 2015 Chicago Marathon)

What I Wish I Knew: “I wish I knew that it was going to be harder than my training runs and sometimes things just happened, like my quads being super tight despite stretching all week. I also didn’t know how much of an emotional rollercoaster it would be with smiles, pain and tears all in one race!”

4. Susan Warcholak: Calgary, Canada

First Marathon: 2013 Kauai Marathon

Number of Marathons: 3 (next one will be 2015 Las Vegas Rock n’ Roll Marathon)

What I Wish I Knew: “I wish I had realized I was only ever going to experience my first marathon once and had taken time to appreciate the incredible journey of 26.2 instead of being worried about every little thing.”

5. Susie Lemmer: Chicago, IL

First Marathon: 2013 DC Marine Corps Marathon

Number of Marathons: 3 (with number 4 being Boston 2016)

What I Wish I Knew: “Every marathon is a collection of small steps. Rejoice in each one, and think of how happy you’ll be!”

7. Elizabeth McClellan: Simi Valley, CA

First Marathon: 2010 DC National Museum Marathon (Now Rock n’ Roll DC Marathon)

Number of Marathons: 9 (and one ultra-marathon!)

What I Wish I Knew: “Having a training, pace and nutrition plan dramatically increases the odds of a good race.”

8. Courtney Shrum: Seattle, WA

First Marathon: 2014 Chuckanut Mountain Marathon

Number of Marathons: 2

What I Wish I Knew: “Your mental game is so much more than your physical game. Don’t get me wrong—the physical plays a big role—but the mental keeps you going!”

9. Nona: Flagstaff, AZ

First Marathon: 2012 Phoenix Rock n’ Roll Marathon

Number of Marathons: 4, including a Boston 2016 Qualifier

What I Wish I Knew: “I wish I had known just how much of a mental battle it is! The last six miles are the worst, and it will be much more mental than physical. It hurts — more than I was prepared for — and that took a huge toll on my mental strength! Your body is capable of the distance; that’s what training is for. The biggest battle towards the end will be silencing the little voice that wants to quit. Just remember, you can do hard things!”

This article was originally published on BRIT + CO.

Photo: skeeze / Pixabay

5 Reasons Why Every Entrepreneur Needs a Mentor

5 Reasons Why Every Entrepreneur Needs a Mentor

The path of an entrepreneur can be a lonely one, carrying the responsibility for a company and its employees all on your own. As Shaherose Charania, CEO and Co-founder of Women 2.0, puts it, “A mentor, someone who’s invested in your personal and professional growth, makes all the difference.” The team at IvankaTrump.com sat down with Shaherose and asked her to weigh in on the challenges startup founders face when seeking a mentor—and why it’s totally worth it to find one anyway.

[Related: 8 Successful People Share How *Not* to Find a Mentor]

It’s crucial to be able to discuss ideas and decisions with someone with no stake in the company, in an environment where you’re supported. A mentor is thoroughly invested in your professional development, but is not attached in any way to the success of your company. For that reason, they can provide a fresh perspective on problems you may be too close to, and, most importantly, you can speak with them knowing that they have no personal stake in any decisions you make and are solely looking out for your best interests.

1. Go to conferences.

Become visible in your industry by attending relevant events and conferences. Be aware and notice people who are drawn to your work, because those are the people who make great mentors. They see potential in what you’re building and will want to see you succeed.

[Related: “How Peer Mentorship Changed My Life”]

2. Know what you don’t know.

Your mentor doesn’t necessarily need to be someone who’s followed your exact career path. In fact, it can be more beneficial to you if they haven’t. Look for someone with experience in an area where you lack it. As an entrepreneur, if your goal is to grow your company to the corporate level, you could benefit from a mentor in the suit-and-briefcase world. If you’re looking to expand your knowledge in a different industry than your own, seek a mentor who works in that industry.

3. Build an authentic connection.

Let the relationship form naturally. Take the time to find common ground. Impress them—show them why they should take an interest in you and your business.

[Related: 100 People You Can Connect With Today]

4. Work with your mentor’s style.

Feel out how your mentor wants to manage the relationship. Maybe it’s informal and you can pick up the phone anytime and call her, or maybe it’s formal and she prefers to set up monthly check-ins. Does she prefer to talk in person, via email or on the phone?

5. It’s not a girls’ club.

Women should look for both male and female mentors—and mentees. While it’s important for women to help build up a strong new generation of female leaders, what will really help with creating a more diverse workforce is ignoring gender.

This article was originally published on IvankaTrump.com

Photo: Thinkstock

Sweepstakes: Make a Statement with a Charm & Chain Necklace

Sweepstakes: Make a Statement with a Charm & Chain Necklace

#Levo100 giveaway, connecting you with the 100 Millennials who are shaping our world.

Dressing for success in the workplace can mean a whole realm of outfit possibilities—but as a whole, the key aspect of a #MyPowerOutift is the confidence it inspires. We’re excited to give you the chance to add a statement to your office wardrobe: the Lulu Frost Passage necklace from Charm & Chain.

Not only will this necklace add sparkle and confidence to your work outfits, but it comes from an online boutique that is disrupting the designer jewelry industry. #Levo100 Rising Star Jamie Rutenberg is the “chain” in Charm & Chain—take a look at her profile to hear more about how she keeps the retailer on task in their daily goal of elevating the role of jewelry in a modern woman’s personal style.

Sweepstakes: Make a Statement with a Charm & Chain Necklace

[Related: The Anatomy of a Power Outfit]

How to Enter: Leave us a comment below with the most essential piece of your #MyPowerOutfit.

Deadline: Act quickly—you only have until Wednesday, October 14 at 11:59 p.m. ET to enter the giveaway. The winner will be randomly selected on October 15 and may be announced through Twitter and Facebook, so don’t forget to follow us to see if you’ve won. We’ll also contact the winner through email so please add @levoleague.com to your safe sender list. Good luck!

Photos: Sam Teich / Levo; Courtesy of Charm & Chain

"What Happened When I Said 'Yes' to Everything for a Week"

“Here’s What Happened When I Said ‘Yes’ to Everything for an Entire Week”

Fresh on the heels of my personal commitment to stop overscheduling myself, my editor presented me with a new challenge: say yes to *everything* for one week. Starting the challenge straightaway, I excitedly agreed. From coffee breaks to spontaneous concerts, freelance gigs to free services, I was going to be the ultimate yes-woman. The kind of eager collector of experiences my fairy godmothers Tina and Amy would be proud of. A dream colleague, a zealous friend, a super-helpful girlfriend, and potentially, a frazzled, over-scheduled mess. I wrote “YES” on my hand so I wouldn’t forget, switched my brain into max-enthusiasm mode, and got started.

[Related: 6 Ways to Re-Focus in an Open Office Environment]

Monday alone was a doozy, by far the most invite-packed of the week—an extra coffee break that I certainly didn’t need (but enjoyed nonetheless), a networking happy hour, a press screening of Room, a concert that night at Radio City, a book club, a ghostwriting job, a free salon service, and a non-specific open invitation to do pottery with a friend. All things that I likely would have said “yes” to anyway, I was ardent in my acceptance in all of the above—except the movie screening. (I valued the assignment, but not enough to give myself nightmares for a week.)

As the week wore on I found myself continuing with the assignment while forgetting I was even doing it. Extra tasks at work? Of course! The opportunity to spend a day working in the HarperCollins booth at New York Comic Con? Absolutely. (P.S. Come visit me on Friday!) One of the things I did notice, however, is the volume of invitations that fell into a grey category. “We must chill soon!” friends declared. “This looks kind of interesting?” they typed alongside forwarded event invites. Facebook invitations were directed toward me—and 50 other people. Do these count as things I need to say “yes” to? They certainly don’t expect me to show up, do they? Is this even an invitation at all?

[Related: Can Being in a Sorority Actually Help Your Job Prospects?]

Our obsession with making very vague, very cancellable plans was on full display. It seemed that even my most solid social invitations were tentative. (They were, as several people later cancelled, even if they were the ones extending the offer.) Even if I responded with an enthusiastic, “yes, let’s go!” or “yes, just pick a day and I’ll be there!” the appointment was at risk of actually occurring. If you’ve watched Aziz Ansari’s stand-up special on Netflix (and you should), you’ve seen this phenomenon explained in the simplest terms: “We’re all part of the rudest, flakiest group of people ever. If you’re alive right now and you have a phone, you’re a rude, shitty person.” You might think it’s an overstatement…until you go read your text conversations from the last few times you tried to make plans with someone. You’ll see a string of maybes, finagling, rescheduling, and flakiness by both parties. “No one wants to commit to shit, because they’re terrified that something better is going to come along,” he observes.

[Related: What Types of Music Will Actually Help You Focus at Work?]

Even with this assignment, my internal responses were no better. Why, when receiving an invitation to spend time with friends, was I already wishing I could get out of it? Yes, I am overscheduled, but guess whose damn fault that is? Mine. Amazing that we’re at a point when this needs to be said, but friends inviting you to do things should not be viewed as an impediment on your schedule. Not to mention the habitual exhaustion we seem to be facing as a generation (As Aziz says, “Ohh, you’re tired? What, were you doing a bunch of manual labor? Were you building a Habitat for Humanity?”) But really, it’s a matter of knowing yourself. If, upon receiving an invitation, you already think there’s a possibility you will cancel, just say no.

Say “yes” to as much as possible, but make sure it means something. Don’t be the person whose “yes” means “maybe” or “depending on how I’m feeling that day” or “if something better doesn’t come up” or “sure, but it’ll probably be late.” Say yes and mean it. Say yes, and throw yourself into the experiences it brings. Say yes, and hold yourself accountable for the follow-through. Say yes, and figure out how to get it done. If that means being more selective about your “yes,” so be it. Because, in the wise words of Amy Poehler, “What else are we going to do? Say no? Say no to an opportunity that may be slightly out of our comfort zone? Quiet our voice because we are worried it’s not perfect? I believe great people do things before they are ready.”

[Related: 11 Signs You’re the Workplace Unicorn]

If there’s anything I’ve taken away from this week of yesses, it’s first, that I do have the time and energy to say yes to my friends more often. Second, we need to start holding each other accountable for our yesses. And most of all, I’m proud to be someone who most often and especially in her career, says yes without reservation. Saying yes has brought me nothing but great opportunities, opportunities I could have easily squandered by saying “no, I’m not ready.”

When my boss found out about this assignment toward the end of the week, she said, “Really? I can’t imagine you saying anything else.” And ultimately, a little extra stress is worth it, because that’s the person I want to continue to be.

Photo: Thomas Barwick / Getty Images

How Serious is Your Work Anxiety?

How Serious Is Your Work Anxiety?

In honor of it being Mental Illness Awareness Week, now’s the perfect time to tackle something that can either be incredibly helpful or seriously debilitating: workplace anxiety. On one hand, worrying about what’s on your plate can spark your motivation, pushing you to power through your to-do list. But when anxiety goes overboard, it can immobilize you, making it hard to get through the day at all. Here, Matthew Goldfine, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist in New York and New Jersey, shares three signs your anxiety is NBD, and three that are a tip-off you’ve got something bigger on your hands.

[Related: 5 Habits That Are Secretly Causing You Major Stress—and How to Break Them]

Your anxiety is pretty normal if:

1. It’s brought on by a huge presentation. Do your nerves spike because you have a stressful work event on your mind? Completely understandable. “If you only get worked up when a truly tense situation arises, like a looming deadline, then your anxiety is nothing to worry about—no pun intended,” said Goldfine. In those cases, try these tips to help squash your stress.

[Related: 5 Ways to Combat Stress That Really, Truly Work]

2. You find a solution to your problem. Sure, everyone has moments when it feels like they’re totally frozen due to anxiety. But if you’re able to shake that feeling and figure out a way to fix your issue, you’re likely dealing with a normal level of worry. “Being able to deal with anxiety as it comes your way is a good indicator of where you are on the anxiety spectrum,” said Goldfine. Think back to the last time you had to deal with a freaky work situation. Did your apprehension leave you completely frazzled, or did you handle it in a way that would make Olivia Pope proud?

3. Your anxiety helps you stay on top of things. It may be counterintuitive, but anxiety can give you a useful push in the work world. “It can keep you sharp, focused, and on task,” said Goldfine. “It’s no coincidence that the world’s best athletes and performers often find a way to channel their nervous energy into something productive.” This is due to physiological changes anxiety can bring about, like a rush of the hormone adrenaline, which can help you kick it into high gear.

[Related: How to Take Action Over Anxiety]

You may want to see a doctor if:

1. Worrying gets in the way of your life. Anxiety that goes beyond work and seeps into every aspect of your life can be harmful. “We can all feel anxious or depressed sometimes,” said Goldfine. “The difference between a normal or abnormal issue is whether it affects your social life, employment, or physical health and well-being.” If you find yourself skipping out on work meetings or avoiding happy hours because it’s just too much for you, your anxiety may be in overdrive.

2. You’re anxious. All. The. Time. Everyone needs a break from the heart-pounding pressure that comes with nervous moments! “If every bump in the road is causing you considerable distress, you may be prone to being anxious,” said Goldfine. When relentless worry has become your status quo, it’s a good time to consider bringing it up with your doctor.

3. Nothing calms you down. Whether it’s a whine-and-wine session with your best friend or a lengthy Swedish massage, you should have a few go-to methods of kicking your anxiety to the curb. If you try things that should be relaxing but your anxiety never goes away, or only abates for a brief period before coming back full force, you may want to get help. “If you always find yourself back where you were before, feeling worried, tense, and on edge, you might have excessive anxiety,” said Goldfine.

The truth is, anxiety is nothing to be ashamed of. About 40 million American adults are dealing with an anxiety disorder, according to the National Alliance on Mental Illness. People live with it daily, and many are able to manage it with the right treatment and coping methods. If you’re starting to think your anxiety may be a real problem, bring it up with your doctor, or sign up for a consultation with a mental health professional. You can even talk about it with your friends—you may be surprised by how many are going through the same thing.

Photo: Zak Kendal / Getty Images

7 Things To Do With Your Mentor That *Don't* Include Coffee or Lunch

7 Things to Do With a Mentor That *Don’t* Include Coffee or Lunch

We’re not mind readers, but when you’re writing a cold e-mail to a potential mentor, how often have you thought “How can I stand out?” along the way? Here’s a secret from us to you: You can stand out by not asking this person to coffee or lunch. (Think about it: If Marissa Mayer accepted every coffee invitation in her inbox right now, her head would probably pop off from caffeine overload.) Below, we’ve come up with seven creative ways to spend time with your mentor. And even if you do end up connecting over lattes or kale salads? She’ll appreciate the out-of-the-box effort.

1. Shadow her for the afternoon. 

Ask to shadow your mentor at work or sit in on a meeting. Keep it to a 1- or 2-hour block, then debrief afterward. While the purpose of job shadowing is to gather career insight and expand your network, it also allows you to build interpersonal skills, become aware of trends in the field, and see workforce technologies in action.

[Related: 25 Perfect Presents for Your Boss Or Mentor]

2. Hop on a Google Hangout. 

Skip the in-person chat. Make things easy and actionable by hopping online for a 30-minute pow-wow. Prepare by getting your key questions ready, know what scenarios or challenges you’d like help navigating, and have a pen and paper near your laptop for note-taking. And remember, don’t just dive in to what you need. Ask your mentor or the individual about his or her day and how you might be of service. 

3. Request a resume or application review.

Sure, face-time with an influential person is ideal, but sometimes it’s better to focus on the brass tacks. Send your resume or a grad school application to your mentor for review, giving her three to five days to respond with feedback. And be clear on what type of feedback you need. (Are you looking for grammar and punctuation, or to ensure that you’ve described your previous work experience in the best way possible?) Bam! E-mentoring at its finest.

[Related: This Woman Created a *Stunning* Resume to Land Her Dream Tech Job]

4. Go to an exercise class. 

If you and your mentor are close, practice a little self-care by signing up for SoulCycle or a hip-hop dance class. (There’s nothing like bonding to the beats of Beyonce.) Getting the adrenaline pumping will not only keep you in shape, but it’ll connect you and your mentor in an unexpected (albeit sweaty!) way.

5. Tag team a networking event. 

Instead of becoming yet another to-do on your mentor’s workday schedule, send the details to an interesting networking event or panel her way and offer to meet up there. You’ll get valuable 1:1 time, plus there’s the possibility of free wine and cheese. Win-win!

[Related: 16 Terrible Things That Could Happen at a Networking Event (And Why It’s Worth the Risk)]

6. Volunteer. 

Identify a community service project that your mentor already participates in and offer to lend an extra hand one Saturday. You can bond, talk about career goals, and give back at the same time.

[Related: Levo 100’s Jenna Arnold Has Some Powerful Words on the Meaning of Giving Back]

7. Do a social swap. 

Many mentors don’t have the time (or tech savvy) to create, update or manage their social media accounts. That’s where you and your unofficial minor in Facebook come in! In exchange for a 1-hour mentor pow-wow, offer to revamp or update your mentor’s social media accounts. A fair exchange will not only endear your mentor to you, but you’ll also get to learn a lot about her career journey by setting up things like her Levo profile. 

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